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10 easy ways to love yourself more

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Self love has a bit of an image to it. You may think of yoga bending, crystal wearing, kale chomping hippy goddesses when you think of self love, but that isn’t so. Self love is the act of loving yourself, and so it is completely personal to you. You have to find what works for you.

Loving yourself isn’t always easy. We can be pretty harsh on ourselves sometimes, but why? Why do we say things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to anybody else? I don’t really know the answer to that, but I know that it needs to stop.

Being horrible to yourself isn’t productive. It brings you down, knocks your confidence and stops you from living the good life you should be living. And the thing is, it’s easy to love yourself a little more.

Little changes can build up and make a huge difference. And before you know it they will become second nature.


10 steps to better self love


Know that you are important.

You may not be the leader of the world, but your opinions and your feelings are important. Tell yourself regularly that you matter, and that your opinions count. This will grow and give you confidence in what you are saying, and also what you are feeling.

Know that you are worth it.

Not only are you important, but you are worth something. You are worth the effort it initially takes to love yourself. Understand that and before long self love will be complete second nature.

Surround yourself with good people.

We all have those friends that are complete drama-llamas, nothing is easy and there is always something major going on. Those people are not the best kinds of people to be around. You’ll always be brought into the latest drama, which is no good for your well being.

Make sure to spend plenty of time with those people who raise you up rather than knock you down. Supportive people are sometimes tricky to find, but once you do, hold onto them.

Recite positive affirmations.

I love positive words. They have power. It’s one of those things that you won’t believe the difference they can make until you try it. I’ve written a couple of other posts about this, specifically affirmations for the morning and for night time.

A quick google search will show you tonnes of others, or write down some words which have meaning to you. Making it personal will make it more likely those words will have a deeper effect.

Indulge in gentle exercise.

We’re not talking running marathons or 2 hours at the gym here, we’re talking gentle stretches, yoga or a fast walk. Do whatever feels comfortable for you based on your current fitness levels or abilities.

Exercise triggers the release of endorphins, and these endorphins give you a more positive feeling. You will also find your stress levels reduced and you will feel more awake during the day. Incorporate small levels of exercise into your daily routine.

Learn to own your flaws.

Nobody is perfect, nobody can ever be perfect, perfection is not humanly possible.

Write a list of your strengths and your weaknesses. Take those weaknesses and put a positive spin on them. For example, I have very curly hair which is a pain in the bum to style. But not many people have such naturally curly hair like mine, it is unique and makes me stand out. See what I did there. I have taken ownership of what I consider a flaw and put a positive spin on it. Give it a whirl.

Make time for self care.

Oh I love self care! Read my other post I’ve written about it with tonnes of ideas on things you can do to look after yourself a bit better.

The most important thing about self care is making it personal to you. What relaxes one person could have completely the opposite effect on someone else. Find the things that work for you and stick to them.

Forgive yourself.

People make mistakes, don’t beat yourself up about them. This could be past mistakes made years ago or something that has just happened.

Let it go. It has happened and cannot be changed, no point wasting time dwelling on it. You’ll feel so much better for it, like a weight has been lifted.

Identify things to change in your life.

Look through the various aspects of your life and decide what isn’t working for you. This could be your career, your eating plan, or even a partner. If it is something detracting from your life then change it.

It can be a bit scary to begin with, making some serious life changes, but in the long run you will feel better for it.

Create attainable goals for the future.

What is important for you and where do you see yourself in five years’ time? Having attainable and manageable goals will keep you focused and make your life more meaningful.

It will also give you a clear idea of what is actually important and what you want to spend more time on. If you’re like me and a bit of a dreamer it also gives you something to stare out of the window and think about for a while.

Give these tips a go, see how you get on, and let me know if you have any luck in the comments!


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101 ideas for simple self care

101 ideas for simple self care

1. Eat lots of fruit and veg.

2. Drink plenty of water.

3. Pick a “guilty pleasure” and indulge occasionally.

4. Practise yoga regularly.

5. Pick some affirmations, and believe them.

6. Go to the beach.

7. Have some time alone.

8. Make sure you get a full night’s sleep.

9. Have a bubble bath.

10. Speak to the people you love who support you.

11. Listen to your favourite song.

12. Watch your favourite film.

13. Watch a funny video on youtube.

14. Visit an art gallery.

15. Go to your favourite coffee shop for a drink.

16. Visit your local park.

17. Enjoy the sunshine on your skin.

18. Go star gazing.

19. Go on day trips to somewhere beautiful.

20. Don’t feel bad for saying no.

21. Keep a journal.

22. Have a no screen night 

23. Spend time around animals.

24. Have a nap.

25. Burn a nice smelling candle or incense stick.

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26. Cook your favourite meal.

27. Find a hobby you love and make time for it.

28. Declutter your house.

29. Do some baking.

30. Change your bedsheets before bedtime.

31. Put your PJ’s in the tumbledryer for just a couple of minutes before putting them on.

32. Do some painting.

33. Plant some flowers.

34. Wear your favourite perfume.

35. Get dressed up for no reason, just because.

36. Have a pyjama day.

37. Close your eyes for 5 minutes.

38. Meditate.

39. Turn your phone off for a few hours.

40. Visit a forest.

41. Organise your work space.

42. Throw away old things you no longer need.

43. Look through old photographs.

44. Take pictures of beautiful things.

45. Have a candlelit dinner.

46. Create something.

47. Start an evening course.

48. Have a lay in at the weekend.

49. Create a relaxing music playlist.

50. Buy yourself a treat.

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51. Put your feet up for an evening.

52. Take regular breaks from your work.

53. Write a list of your favourite things about yourself.

54. Write yourself a budget.

55. Have a spare change piggy bank or “fun fund”.

56. Colour in a colouring book.

57. Pop some bubble wrap.

58. Be mindful of what you’re feeling this precise moment.

59. Write a list of the things you are grateful for.

60. Buy yourself some flowers.

61. Do some gentle exercise.

62. Have a pamper day.

63. Put a pin in a map for all the places you would like to visit.

64. Create a new Pinterest board dedicated to self improvement.

65. Bundle up in your duvet and scoot down the stairs.

66. Lay on the floor with your legs in the air.

67. Make a gift for a friend.

68. Tell someone you love them.

69. Create a space of peace at home.

70. Take a dog for a walk.

71. Get a haircut.

72. Clear out the old clothes from your wardrobe.

73. Do some deep breathing exercises.

74. Give yourself a pep talk.

75. Drink a warm beverage.

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76. Make some alcohol free cocktails to have at lunch time.

77. Sell some items online.

78. Go browsing in a book shop.

79. Leave the house for a spontaneous adventure.

80. Rearrange your furniture.

81. Paint your toenails.

82. Make a face mask and put it on.

83. Pull funny faces at yourself in the mirror.

84. Run up and down the stairs 10 times to get your heart pumping.

85. Buy some new extra comfy slippers.

86. Hold hands with a loved one.

87. Draw a silly picture.

88. Bake a loaf of bread.

89. Clean your windows to let the sunlight in.

90. Find shapes in the clouds.

91. Find some daisies and make daisy chains.

92. Climb a tree (if you can and it’s safe).

93. Re-purpose some old clothes into something new.

94. Run outside when it’s raining.

95. Jump on your sofa’s and pretend the floor is lava.

96. Get yourself a massage.

97. Do something new: visit a new place, go a different route to work, anything.

98. Set yourself an attainable challenge for the next day.

99. Take a moment to let go of past mistakes.

100. Remind yourself how important you are.

101. Remember how important it is to look after yourself.

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101 simple self care ideas

10 simple self care ideas in 10 minutes or less

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What is self care?

Self care is small actions you take to look after yourself, physically, mentally and emotionally. These actions are intended to increase your overall sense of well being and make you a happier healthier more giving individual.

Why does it matter?

As the quote says, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Much like on airplanes parents are told to secure their breathing apparatus before their child’s, you must take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. You can’t give away something which you don’t have, so if your mental energy reserves are running empty this could be a problem for you.

But I don’t have time!

Oh, you really really do. Self care doesn’t have to take much time out of your day. It can be small actions which you do daily to help replenish your mental and emotional stock. Stick to it long enough and before you know it self care will be a habit, a natural part of your daily routine.

Okay, how do I start caring for myself more?

I’m so glad you asked! Self care is a pretty general term, so there are a lot of ways you can look after yourself a bit better. All of these are small ways you can practice self care, so should be easy to implement into your routine.


Simple & quick self care inspiration

Take time to freshen up.

Spend 5 minutes extra in the shower, brush your teeth in the evening, wash your hands with some nice smelling soap. Literally remove the grime from yourself and it will make you feel a lot better.

Listen to your favourite song.

Music is powerful. Put your favourite song on and have a dance, sing along, enjoy it. Choose a song which holds particular meaning to you to really feel the benefit.

Look away from those screens.

It doesn’t have to be for long, just a 5 minute break every hour if you work in front of a computer. Or pack away your phone for some time. It’s like a reboot for the mind.

Do some stretches.

Yoga is amazing and a proper routine is something you try and do as much as possible. However if you’re short of time just pick a few poses which you really enjoy and go for it.

Get into nature.

Find 10 minutes to go for a short walk outside and take in the beauty around you. Literally smell the roses. Fresh air is amazing. This could be a bit trickier if you live in a city, but work around your surroundings, even the most built up areas have some green areas.

Talk to someone you love.

And I don’t mean just text them. Either see them, or ring them. Spending time speaking to someone who matters to you will make you feel better about yourself and also about life in general. These are the kinds of people you should keep close.

Close your eyes for 5 minutes.

You could really do this anywhere (unless you’re driving, don’t do that). Stop and close your eyes, let them rest and your mind reboot.

Read inspirational quotes.

There are tonnes of them on Pinterest, or even a quick google search will pop something up. Find word’s which have meaning to you, read them, absorb them and take them to heart.

Write a journal entry.

Write out the good and the bad aspects of your day. Let any emotions you may have about them flow out onto the paper. The positive memories will be collected, and the negative thoughts taken from your head and planted onto paper. Win win.

Say some positive affirmations.

Positive words have a positive impact, tell yourself something nice and you will feel nice. It really is as simple as that. I have 2 posts I’ve written about this:

Give them a read through, the only way to find out is if you try it for yourself


These are just a few ideas, it is not exhaustive and it’s also important to work out a routine for yourself. There are a lot of resources out there surrounding the topic of self care.

If you have any other ideas please share them in the comments!

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10 steps to becoming a happier person

I’ve often thought about what makes a happy person. Is it money? Is it good looks? Is it just plain old good fortune? And do you know what? Its none of those things.

Life isn’t easy all of the time, but what is easy is changing your outlook. You have the power to make yourself a happy person, even if some days you just don’t feel like it.

But flapping around in the dark is no use, you need guidance for this kind of thing. An idea on how to make yourself happier.

So, I’ve had a good think about things, and these are the 10 steps I have used to become a much happier person.

10 steps to becoming a happier person

1. Let go of the past.

Stop looking back, you’re not heading that way! We’ve all heard it, time to start embracing it. Whatever may have happened, whether it be large or small, is behind you. Some things can’t be forgotten, but you can train yourself to stop thinking about it.

Next time you start thinking about something you didn’t like about your past make yourself think about something you are excited about for the future. You can train your brain this way to stop dwelling on negative past experiences.

2. Be present.

Don’t let moments pass you by, embrace them. Whatever is happening right this second is important and you should take part in the moment wholly and completely. Allow yourself to take part in whatever is happening around you.

Letting yourself enjoy the moment is a game changer. Being more involved in your present self stops you from thinking back, and from also thinking too far forward. It is important to have a plan but not everything needs to be work for a single minded goal. Let the moment take you where you should be.

3. Put a positive spin on everything.

Something really rubbish has happened, how easy is it to dwell on just how rubbish it is? Not any more. Look at what has happened from all angles and find a positive one.

A good example for this is at work. Us humans weren’t built to live the way we are living, but for most of us we have to do something we don’t actively enjoy to get by. Instead of focusing on how much you don’t enjoy it, focus on the aspects which you do enjoy. It could be as much as the people are really lovely, or as little as the coffee is strong. Take whatever you can from every situation and put a positive light on it.

Your brain will soon become trained to looking at things positively, and it will become second nature.

4. Get out into nature as much as possible.

If you’re like me going to a country park is one of my favourite ways to spend a sunny weekend. But even if you wouldn’t consider yourself outdoorsy, just try it.

Leave the confines of your house and take a walk to a local park. Sit in your garden and read a book. Plan a weekend escape to a local camping ground. You need to reconnect with nature, even if you don’t think this is something which applies to you.

5. Unplug.

I wrote another post recently Why you need a no screen night which details why you need to unplug from social media, television etc. And also another post 10 things to do on a no screen evening with some ideas as to what to do on these evenings.

The proof really is in the pudding with this one. Getting away from technology as much as possible is great for your sense of well being. It also gives you time to focus on a hobby or spend more present time with loved ones.

6. Stop comparing yourself to other’s.

The rise of social media has made it all too easy to grab an insight into other people’s lives, and we automatically compare their lot to ours. Stop doing this. It isn’t productive, and normally people only post the very very best aspects of their lives on social media. It isn’t realistic.

Also, we grow as people at different rates. Have you ever heard the phrase “an old head on young shoulders”? Some people are naturally very good at life and succeed immediately. With other’s it can take a while. And that is great! If everyone was exactly the same life would be completely boring. Just because someone the same age as you has a fancy house or the latest car doesn’t mean you should have those things too. Focus on yourself, not on other people.

7. Stop caring what people think.

Oh, this is such a big one when it comes to happiness. How many times have you avoided doing something you would enjoy because you thought other people may look down on you or make fun of you for it? We’re all guilty of this, but it is time to stop.

Do you know what I really like doing? I love singing along to my music as loud as possible whilst driving in my car. I used to only do this at night for fear of someone pointing and laughing. Do you know what I do now? I don’t care! I’ll sing along, and no one has pointed and laughed yet.

Do what makes you happy and stop considering other people’s opinions when it comes to things you enjoy.

8. Leave yourself with time to be spontaneous.

My partner and I looked at our calendar recently and found we have so many different events and gatherings on that we don’t have a free weekend for some time to come. Which is nice, but on the flip side we also now have a really rigid structure to follow for the next few weeks. Which sucks.

Leave yourself some days to do exactly what you want to do at that exact moment. Look back up to number 2, be present and let your path flow where it wants to for the day. The day’s will feel so much more natural, and you then don’t have to do anything you’re not really looking forward to.

9. Learn when to say yes, and when to say no.

This is so important. Dependent on where you look you’re either told to say yes to everything, or say no to everything. But you need to learn how to accept offers and decline them in equal measure.

When it comes to saying yes, you need to decide whether it is something you actively want to do. And also whether it is something which will expand you as a person. Will you meet new people? Will you learn a new craft? Weigh these things up.

Likewise with saying no, is it something which will detract from your sense of well being? Will it put you into a situation which you would rather not be in? I’m not keen on partying or night clubs and so avoid those as much as possible. But you do have the power to decline any event you don’t want to go to.

10. Learn how to be alone.

Being alone is brilliant. I have a wonderful partner, lovely friends and amazing family. But I still ear mark time from each day where I will be alone and can do my own thing.

Your happiness is not dependent on somebody else, and it is empowering to realize this. Particularly with romance it can be all too easy to rely on other people for your happiness, but this is co-dependency and no one comes out of a relationship like that unscathed.

If you’re not used to being on your own, try it. And turn your phone off whilst you’re at it. You’re not completely alone if you are still contacting people.

 


 

True happiness is a difficult thing to achieve, I don’t think anyone ever is truly happy all of the time. And there is nothing wrong with that. But aiming for happiness is a brilliant thing and will change you as a person along the way. Let me know how you get on in the comments.

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Important life lessons I’ve learnt on the path to happiness

If you’ve read any of my blog posts before you’ll know that I am a self made happiness millionaire. Life wasn’t always like this. Only a few short years ago I didn’t really like myself, I wasn’t happy in my situation, and it was all too painfully obvious to the people around me who cared.

I like to think back to those times to remind myself just how far I’ve come in such a relatively short period of time. I also like to think about what sort of person I would be today if my life hadn’t changed so drastically. It makes me shudder, but all the more pleased to be exactly where I am right now.

Anybody else beginning this path to happiness needs to know it wasn’t easy. Along the way I had to face up to some pretty harsh yet pretty basic basic truths about life. A very wise lady I know told me “You don’t have to be happy all of the time” which certainly rings true.

Life lessons from the path of happiness


You’re not entitled to anything.

This counts for happiness, for love, for affection, for money, for food. You are not entitled to it. Just because you are walking this planet doesn’t mean you are entitled to it’s resources. You are not just a taking machine, you have to give something back, that’s the only way. You cannot expect someone to expend all their love on you without giving some love back. You also cannot expect money to be given to you, you have to work for it.

This is probably the biggest realization I faced during my darkest times. It is humbling, and inspiring. There is so much more going on in the world aside from your issues and needs. Take solace in this fact. Give something back.

People are not mind-readers.

Another huge realization for me. I used to have the tendency to be passive aggressive, assume that everyone should know what was wrong with me, and get upset with them when they didn’t fulfill my needs as I thought they should. That’s because I never told them what my needs were! This is so important across any relationship you have, whether with a partner, a friend, a family member, even work colleagues. Remember that they don’t know what is going on in your head, and vocalize your concerns.

This doesn’t mean fly off the handle. This means calmly explain what you need. Even if it just to have someone acknowledge your feelings. If you explain this to them you are more likely to get the outcome which is best for both parties, and be happier all round.

Pain is relative.

How many times have you complained about something, only to be told there are starving children in Africa who have it so much worse? I think this may be a British thing. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are starving children in Africa and my heart breaks thinking about it, but it isn’t fair to dismiss someone else’s pain just because another person’s is greater.

For some people big life events like death are easy to handle, for other’s they may not be able to cope with even the slightest disruption in their normal life. Dismissing someone’s pain is an awful thing to do, and it is awful to have it done to you. It doesn’t matter what their pain is, you should listen to them. And when it’s your turn they will be more likely to lend a shoulder to cry on.

Negativity is more contagious than any disease.

This one was a tough pill to swallow. I was a constant spewer of negative vibes. Work was rubbish, my friends didn’t care enough, wah wah wah. What I didn’t realize was that I was making the people around me unhappy too. They would begin to think about the negative things in their life, and I would bring the atmosphere down. This is probably why my friends didn’t always want to be around me.

But this is an easy one to take hold of. Instead of complaining I made myself look at the positives in every situation. This was effort at first but second nature now. My colleagues at work have better days, my friends are happy in my company, life seems a little brighter. All of that just from one person trying to see the positive in everything.

Only YOU are responsible for YOUR happiness.

You can choose to be happy or to not be happy. Its pretty simple. You also shouldn’t rely on happiness coming from somebody else within your life, especially a partner. This is codependency and no one comes out of a relationship like that feeling pretty great. You need to make conscious actions within your own life to improve your own happiness. Indulge in a new hobby. Make time for yourself every day. Do the things that you like to do.

On the flip side this also means you are not responsible for anybody else’s happiness. If there is a choice between their happiness and yours you must weigh up all options, outcomes and responsibilities. For example, you and a friend are both romantically interested in the same person. The person is only romantically interested in one of you. Its a tough situation but one that is all too easy to find yourself in. This is the kind of situation where weighing up your happiness and somebody else’s can be tough, but you can do it.

These are just some of the lessons I’ve learnt along the way.

Life is big and beautiful, but challenging. It can sometimes seem like you are being tested, but you need to remember you’re not alone in this desire for happiness. This is the number 1 thing most people want, and by putting out the right message yourself you’ll find the response you get back is more aligned to you. Stay strong people, it does get easier.


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10 things to do on a no screen evening

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10 things to do on a no screen evening

I wrote another post recently about why you should have a no screen evening, but now here’s some ideas for what you can do on these evenings.

No screen evenings are a fun way of unplugging from the modern world and spending some time with family and friends. You can remove yourself from distractions, like TV and phones, and enjoy the company you are in. Or, just enjoy your own company.

These are some of my favourite things to do on a no screen evening, hopefully you can find some inspiration to plan a no screen evening of your own!

1. Read a book.

Not just any book. Its that book which you’ve read a few pages of, but have gotten too busy to read anymore. Mine was The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat by Oliver Sacks (a brilliant read about some really interesting case studies of very unusual neurological disorders, check it out if you like the weird and the wonderful). I managed to finish the book through a no screen evening. Make time for those unloved books.

2. Cook a new recipe.

Top tip for this one: make sure you either have the recipe written down or have a cook book to hand. The no screen evening can be ruined if you have to fire up the tablet for the next step. At Christmas one of our gifts was a vegan friendly hamper (my partner is vegan, I’m mostly vegan), which included The Vegan Cook Book for Beginners, perfect for us as I’m still coming to terms with vegan cooking. Get yourself a copy though as it is full of really handy tips.

3. Play card games.

Buy yourself a deck of cards. You know have the capability to play hundreds of card games. You can play Solitaire on your own, or invite some friend’s around for a game of poker. If you’re like me and have a wicked sense of humour then check out Cards Against Humanity. If you’ve not heard of it before then tread with caution. It is essential a question and answers game, you have to come up with the funniest answer from your hand of cards. However the answers are rude, crude and sometimes down right offensive. I find it hilarious.

4. Have a board game evening.

I have some really fond memories of playing board games with my family when I was a kid, bring some nostalgia into your life and find some of the old board games you used to play. We recently invested in Monopoly, and have spent a few evenings playing, although I am slightly over competitive and a sore loser. I’m working on that though.

5. Pamper yourself!

Turn off the TV, run yourself a bubble bath, pour a glass of your favourite drink and treat yourself. You could always get some face masks, hair treatments and really pamper yourself! One of my favourite things to do is pluck my eyebrows, they always seem completely untamed so this is a good opportunity to get on top of things.

6. Pick up a new hobby.

You’ll need to do some groundwork here, figure out whats the right hobby for you. I’m quite partial to a bit of knitting, but you could try anything. Paper craft, crochet, cross stitch, wood burning, home brewing: the list is literally endless. There are a tonne of books you can invest in, or pick up from the library, just make sure you have the basics to hand and go for it.

7. Catch up with friends.

Invite your friends over, and then all of you place your phones in a bowl. The first to break and check it has to take the rest of you out for dinner. This is a perfect opportunity to strengthen bonds with loved ones, and you’ll find without the distraction of technology you will learn so much about each other, particularly if it’s people you haven’t seen in a whole.

8. Clean all of the things.

Without the distraction of TV or Facebook you can really get into the nitty gritty of cleaning pretty much anything. I don’t enjoy doing the cleaning BUT I do enjoy a deep clean. I mean the kind of clean where you get on your hands and knees and scrub the skirting boards until they’re gleaming. Nothing is more satisfying than actually seeing a noticeable difference. It doesn’t sound like the most exciting way to spend a no screen evening but guaranteed you’ll feel better for it.

9. Visit a local park.

You don’t have to stay in for a no screen evening! Find a local park and go for a walk. Take a loved one, or go on your own, just make sure you leave your phone at home (or turned off, I always get worried I’ll need it). Without your phone to hand you won’t be tempted to just take pictures of the beautiful scenery, you can truly enjoy it.

10. Do some writing.

Get yourself a journal and write an entry. Get together with friends, each armed with a pen, each person gets to write ten words on a piece of paper with only the last word of the previous sentence showing. Hilarious. Always wanted to write a book? Now’s the time. You could even invest in an old fashioned typewriter! I’m a big fan of the written word, if you push yourself you may be able to come up with something interesting, just have plenty of pens and paper to hand.


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10 night time affirmations for a better nights sleep

10 night time affirmations for a better nights sleep

Affirmations can have a profound effect on our mental well being. How often do you find yourself saying negative words to yourself? It is too easily done. Change that around and say something positive to yourself.

Similar to my previous post 10 morning affirmations for a more positive day I wanted to focus on things you should say to yourself before getting into bed every night. Things which could put you into the right mindset for a peaceful sleep.

Sleep is really important for our mental well being. A rubbish sleep can truly ruin the next day, so it is super important you do what you can to combat this.

These don’t need to be said out loud, you could say them in front of the mirror or just to yourself in your head. I personally choose to think them in my head whilst in bed. But make your own routine, do what works for you.


1. Today has been good.

It doesn’t need to have been a great day, just good will do. Say these words to yourself and think about the elements of your day which have been positive. It could be something large, or something small like a beautiful sky. Take a moment to focus on these positives.

2. Tomorrow will also be good.

Again, it doesn’t need to be great. I’m a firm believer that positivity stems from realism and not expecting everything from life. The more you expect the more pressure you put on yourself to achieve something which may not be attainable. Look forward to the next day with the same expectancy you had for the previous day. Look forward to those good aspects.

3. I have achieved something today.

Whether your day has been stressful or fairly relaxed, think about your achievements. Again, these could be small or large. Don’t put pressure on yourself for those achievements to have been large. Some day’s my only achievement has been to wake up and get on with things. It really doesn’t have to be much.

4. I will not worry.

Don’t dwell on the inconveniences of the day, or any larger worries which may be clouding your thoughts. Roll all of those worries up into a little ball and put them aside to think about after you’ve rested. Sleep is the time our brains need to process different emotions so you won’t be surprised that in the morning that ball of worry will be a lot smaller, maybe even gone completely.

5. I accept what tomorrow will offer.

You’ve already affirmed that tomorrow will be a good day, now it is time to tell yourself to accept this. Opening yourself up to the possibilities of a new day will hopefully get you excited for what the next day has to offer. Thinking ahead is always better than looking back.

6. I will accept myself tomorrow.

Not every day is perfect. As much as we can try and put a positive spin on everything it is more important to accept what happens. And most importantly you should accept yourself. You cannot be perfect, and you shouldn’t even strive to be. You should strive to be exactly who you are, and accept yourself whatever that may be.

7. I will wake up on the right side of the bed.

How many times have you woken up in a bad mood? I know I’ve had my fair share of mornings like that, but put it in your head that tomorrow won’t be one of those days. Set yourself up before the night even begins for a much more positive start to the next day.

8. My dreams are important.

Sleep is essential, without it we would go completely crazy. Our dreams are a time for our brains to process information from the day, and to prepare for the following day. Dreams are important. Accept that.

9. I will leave today in the past.

You need to accept that the day has happened and there is nothing you can do to change anything. No point dwelling on it.

10. Tomorrow is a new day.

Following on from number 9, every morning is a fresh start, that’s something to look forward to right? Think of all the new experiences tomorrow has to offer. Looking forward is much more productive than looking back.


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10 morning affirmations for a more positive day

10 morning affirmations for a more positive day

What is an affirmation? Google says it is the action or process of affirming something, and providing emotional support or encouragement. In this case you will be providing emotional support and encouragement to yourself.

Simply stating words of encouragement and support to yourself can have a really uplifting effect on your overall sense of happiness and well-being. It is so important to say positive words to yourself.

When it comes to other people, we all have kind words to say, but when it comes to ourselves we can be monstrously harsh. How often does that little voice in the back of your head say something kind to a friend, and something disapproving to yourself?

Well, I say no more. A good place to start is to say some kind words to yourself as part of your morning routine. You can say these out loud, in your head, in front of the mirror, however you need to feel comfortable. Just. Say. Them.


1. I am happy to be awake.

Let yourself know that being awake is exactly what you want to be. The dream state is all too comfortable and can be difficult to pull yourself out of. This affirmation can be especially powerful if you are someone who actually dreads waking up in the morning and starting a new day. Repeat this to yourself until you start believing it. It won’t take long, trust me.

2. I am excited for the day ahead.

It doesn’t matter what you have planned, tell yourself you are excited for it. Whether it be a day in the office, running around after children or not really doing an awful lot. Tell yourself you’re excited about it and you will be excited for it. Its like a self fulfilling prophecy.

3. I look forward to new experiences.

Even if you live what you consider quite a monotonous life you do experience something new everyday. Be prepared for these new experiences, tell yourself to anticipate their arrival, and to enjoy them when they come into fruition. Tell yourself not to be scared of them but to embrace them with open arms.

4. I can handle whatever today throws at me.

Yeah, that’s right, you can do it. Whatever it is, you can do it. Give yourself a boost first thing in the morning, and set yourself up to succeed. If you tell yourself you can deal with whatever the day throws at you then that will be the case. Also, if you’re resilience is being tested throughout the day you will think back to this affirmation and how it made you feel, and it will give you another boost throughout the day.

5. My life is good.

If you are reading this blog post on a laptop, desktop computer or smart phone then you have more in your life than many many people. Although I am a firm believer that suffering is personal, it is also good to remind yourself just how good you have it. Take a few seconds to also think about what it is in your life which makes it so good. Work, friends, family, a really cute dog. All of these things are beautiful and should be appreciated, take this time to do just that.

6. I enjoy the company I keep.

If you’re like me, you keep your circle of friends small. The people I consider friends are carefully selected and are immensely amazing. However, if you’re not like me and stay friendly with a lot of people, there is probably also a very good reason for that. Say this affirmation to yourself and know that the people you choose to incorporate into your life are there for a reason.

7. I will not compare myself to others.

The only person you should be looking at is yourself. Do not compare your looks to someone else. Do not compare your work ethic to someone else. Do not compare your life to someone else’s. With the uprising of social media (Facebook, I’m looking at you) it is now easier than ever to compare what you have to what somebody else has. This breeds nothing but unhappiness. Tell yourself to stop it. This affirmation will come to mind every time you look enviously at what somebody else has, and before you know it you’ll stop it.

8. I will not compete with others.

Similar to the previous affirmation, you don’t need to compete with anybody. Life is not a competition, none of us get out of this alive, so why not enjoy what you have and stop trying to have more than anybody else? It is human nature to look at what our neighbours have and want that and more. But you don’t need to, and you can train yourself out of it.

9. I accept who I am.

Acceptance is a beautiful thing. It is easier to accept other people exactly how they are, slightly less easy to accept ourselves. We see ourselves at our very worst, but this is good. You are exactly the person you are meant to be, and once you understand that it will be like a weight off of your shoulders. You will breathe a sigh of relief.

10. I am enough.

This is the affirmation to top all other affirmations. You are sufficient. Not too much, not too little, just exactly what you are meant to be. Like the bears with their porridge you are perfect. This is an accumulation of all the other affirmations in this list. You don’t need to compete because you are enough, you don’t need to compare because what anybody else is is irrelevant. Check out my blog post about Lagom to get a more inspiration about being enough.

Muhammed Ali quote

Try these every morning for a week and see how you feel. I can assure you they will make a difference to your sense of well being, the levels of your self confidence and your overall happiness. What have you got to lose?


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The Sunday Schedule – My Top 10 Tips for an Awesome Week

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10 tips for a more awesome week

I’ve been thinking a lot about Sundays recently. Usually this is the laziest day of my week. I wake up late, watch a film with my mum, then return home to do nothing but sit on my bum and watch TV until bed time.

But this is such a waste of time! We only get a certain amount of free time every week to get things done. So I’ve been thinking of things which could specifically be done on a Sunday to make the rest of the week awesome.

As is my mantra, these are small things you can do to make a big difference. Not just organizational, but also to put you in a better mind set for the week ahead.

1. Check your calendar.

This is essential for the Sunday schedule. You need to be prepared for what the week has to offer. Make sure you check out your calendar and remind yourself of any big plans you have. The amount of times I’ve almost forgotten birthdays and social events because I haven’t checked my calendar is unbelievable. Doing this on a Sunday gives you time to run out and buy gifts, organize baby sitters, essentially just get yourself prepared.

2. Plan your meals.

I’ve got a weekday planner (similar to this one), and on a Sunday my partner and I sit down and write out the dinners we’ll be having all week. Doing this on a Sunday means we have time to also make sure we have all the ingredients available. Having a plan also means you’re less likely to order a takeaway or cook something unhealthy, saving you money and keeping you nourished. It’s a win win.

3. Prepare your meals.

So, you’ve got your meals planned, now is time to prepare as much as possible. I’ve read a lot of log posts about prepping all meals; breakfast lunch and dinner, then freezing or refrigerating until using. Seriously, go looking on Pinterest, there’s so much you can make beforehand, in bulk, then freeze. I cooked up so much soup last weekend I now have a freezer full! It’s a great way of saving time during the week, but it does take up a lot of your Sunday hours. Do as much as you can, you’ve got your weekday planner to fall back on if you don’t get as much done as hoped.

4. Change and wash your bedsheets.

Is there anything better than getting into a bed with fresh bedsheets? No, no there isn’t. Make this your Sunday treat, fresh bed linen. Making sure your bedsheets are washed the same day also ensures you don’t have to wash them the following Sunday before changing them. Going to bed will be a more exciting prospect. You won’t feel half as dreary about Monday.

5. Organize your outfits.

This saves time and stress every morning for me. I’m not exactly fashion conscious and tend to wear the same clothes week in week out, but I throw the outfits onto a hanger and keep them separate from my other clothes in the wardrobe. This way I don’t have to think about it in the morning. You’ll be surprised how much time it does actually save you in the mornings, especially if you also have little ones to run around after.

6. Pamper yourself.

Take some time out to focus on you. Have a bath, wash your hair, put on a facemask, and relax. This couldn’t be better for your sense of wellbeing and sets you up for a much more chilled out start to the week. Self care is important for your state of mind, don’t forget about it just because it doesn’t really like the most productive thing to be doing.

7. Yoga time.

Yoga is the best. Seriously, it is. Do some stretches and aim for about 30 minutes. New to this? There are tonnes of tutorials out there for beginners. I have a Pinterest board dedicated to yoga, and I’d highly suggest checking out YogaWithAdrienne on Youtube. She’s my favourite as her videos are instructional, easy to follow and she has videos catered to any need you may have. Yoga is brilliant for relaxing your muscles, and the focus on breathing and being grounded will clear your head.

8. Do something creative.

Get your creative juices flowing in preparation for the week ahead! Take up a new hobby, knitting, paper craft, or painting: whatever makes you happy. You could even DIY something for your home or a loved one, enjoy spending some time being artistic. Again, Pinterest is a brilliant source for finding small crafts to try at home.

9. Talk to yourself in the mirror.

You talkin’ to me? Just kidding. This sounds like a weird one, but give it a try. Tell yourself this week is going to be awesome, you’re going to make the most of every second and achieve something. It doesn’t have to be anything specific, pump yourself up. Words have more power than we release.

10. Go to bed early.

Something I always struggle with, but make sure on a Sunday night you get into bed nice and early. Starting the week refreshed will set you up better. I always make sure I’m in bed by 10 o’clock on a Sunday night, but choose a time for you so you can ensure a full 8 hours of rest. You’ll feel a lot better on Monday morning for it.

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The art of Fika

the art of fika

Fika basically means “to have coffee”. It’s a concept widespread across Sweden and Finland, similar to afternoon tea in the UK, where you meet with loved ones, have a cup of coffee with a pastry or a cake. In Sweden pastries are called fikabröd, literally meaning fika bread.

Fika breaks are common place across Sweden with many workplaces having 2 throughout the day. It’s a good time for colleagues to get together, chat and relax. Not to dissimilar to a tea break across the UK, however it does generally include eating something, whether it be a pastry, a sandwich or even some fruit.

As this isn’t a concept which has managed to reach other parts of the world as of yet you may think that bringing fika into your daily life could be a struggle, but with some minor adaptations to your day it could be achieved.

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Fika can be broken down into 3 main parts: a drink, something to eat, and a break from your daily routine. These are essential.

The Drink

Traditionally this is coffee, but it doesn’t have to be. I really dislike coffee but a cup of tea is a perfect substitute for me. Consider your options: what do you have available and what do you really want. If you’re in a café the world is your oyster but if you’re at home or at work you could be limited in your selection. Pick the beverage which you can see yourself enjoying.

The Food

It is commonplace to enjoy fika with a pastry, biscuits or cinnamon bun, but if you’re like me and trying to maintain/lose some weight, this may not be the right option for you. Consider having a lighter snack such as a piece of fruit, or maybe even a small sandwich or wrap.

The Break

This, for me, is the most important element to fika. It is a purposeful way of removing yourself from work and enjoying a short amount of time with friends, family or colleagues. We all know taking a break is good for our mental wellbeing: it gives us time to process information and lower the amount of stress we put on our brains. It’s also a good way of building, strengthening and maintaining the bonds we have with other people. We’ve all been there, we’ve lost track of time and before you know it we haven’t spoken to our closest friends for days, weeks or (if you’re like me) months. Use this as an opportunity to get back in touch.

There are so many ways of bringing a touch of fika into our lives. It doesn’t have to be a daily occurrence if you really can’t manage it. It could be a weekly treat. A weekly fika treat.

If you work and have allocated breaks, consider spending one of these breaks with another colleague. Have a chat about work and your personal lives. This is a prime time to build a bond with someone you otherwise may only see during working hours. Bring in some pastries or biscuits, put the kettle on and sit down for a chat.

Outside of work you could maybe organize a weekly fika break with friends. Make an occasion out of it! Get together at your favourite coffee shop and shoot the breeze. Remove yourselves from your general day to day activities and have a break with friends.

Fika is a fun concept and I hope you take some inspiration from it. My plan is to bring some fika into my Sunday routine. Let me know how you get on!

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